Category: Emotional Recovery
Letting Go of Control
Letting go of triggers and obsessions related to the affair requires some skill. It takes work to identify the internal and external triggers. It requires paying attention to what
What Couples Avoid Talking About
Once you see “What’s behind the curtain” or what is behind the scenes, you view things differently. When I started out as a therapist, I often talked with older,
“Am I weird?”
Have you ever asked yourself the question, “Am I weird?” The likelihood is that you have. You may wonder if you’re normal. You may have gone so far as
Is Cheating a Form of Emotional Abuse in a Relationship?
Recognizing the signs of an emotionally abusive relationship Emotional abuse can manifest in various forms within a relationship, often overshadowed by more overt signs of physical abuse. An abusive
What Gaslighting and Alienation have in common
Several years ago I did a series of small videos on one of my sites dealing with alienation. In putting together the presentations it occurred to me that alienation
Valentine’s Day After the Affair
There are times when addressing affair-related topics challenges me. One place where those challenges occur is what to write on ‘special days’. This is due to special days being filled
The SECOND betrayal
One of the issues that strikes a nerve within me is child abuse, especially sexual abuse. There’s something about that issue that activates a strong reaction of disgust deep
When you are an emotional wreck
Anytime I hear someone say “I’m an emotional wreck”, it tells me that the news of the affair is still pretty fresh. At this point, they know that something
Photographs and Memories
Are there times you have found yourself being caught up with the question “Why didn’t I see this coming?” when it comes to the affair? You may have spent
Building Resilience after an Affair
The comments left by readers are constantly a source of inspiration. The comments not only inspire me, they also let me know what areas associated with affairs haven’t been
