Category: Rebuilding marriage relationship after the affair
Make her worship you
In checking my e-mails, I was accosted by the usual assortment of ads promising how my love life will totally turn around with someone’s product. Like Superman, I will
Understanding Revenge-Part IV
What is the trigger for the revenge? Once you have identified the trigger, take a closer look at it. There is one type of revenge that occurs when you
Understanding Revenge-Part III
In many ways, revenge is an extended anger. Healthy anger is intense and short lived. It is usually triggered by threats or frustrations. These same two elements, threat and
Fighting fire with fire
In Nairobi, a recent article in their paper advocated polygamy as a solution to infidelity. This is like throwing gasoline on a fire. Legitimizing sexual license is not going
Understanding Revenge Part II
Revenge is powered by fantasies and hurt. These two ingredients combine to make revenge possible. Since both are needed to keep revenge going, stopping them will reduce the likelihood
Understanding Revenge Part I
After finding out about your spouse’s affair, the possibility of vengeance or revenge is high. Although vengeance seems to be a good way to let off steam and get
Telling the children
Telling the children about an affair is a heart wrenching matter. It is not easy to tell them without the rage and intense hurt spilling over. As a parent
The desire to punish
In the aftermath of an affair, there is the deep seated desire to punish. Sometimes, this desire is directed at the paramour and sometimes at your spouse. You feel
Clarity
One of the lines that I enjoyed in the move “Joe versus the Volcano” is when the main character is having a conversation and the comment is made that
The right words. The right time.
In dealing with an affair situation, finding the rights words and the right time to say them is often challenging. The best time to say them and the ideal
