Category: Waking up and confronting the cheater
When the AP shows up
Uninvited guests can be either a pleasant surprise or a nightmare. When that uninvited guest is the AP (lover), it’s more of the latter. Since there’s always a chance the
Still feeling lousy after forgiving
Are you still feeling lousy after forgiving? If so, there’s a reason. You haven’t forgiven yourself. That’s why you don’t feel it at all. You see, forgiveness is not
Bad Habits of Cheating Spouses
In working with couples struggling through affairs, I’ve learned lessons about what works along with what makes things worse. One of the bad habits I continue seeing is that
‘Cock mout kill cock’
There’s a saying in Jamaica of ‘Cock mout kill cock’. The saying means that the crowing of the rooster (cock mouth) brings attention to himself which makes it easier
Communication that wasn’t as good as he thought it was.
Are there times when you’ve talked back to the television? When you hear or see something so outlandish, you feel it needs a response. There have been times when
‘What’s wrong with you?’
If you’re one of those spouses who dares ask questions or snoop, chances are that you’ve been asked “What’s wrong with you?” This question comes about when you see
Turning truth into arguments
If you ever pick up one of my books in my library, they’re filled with notes and underlined passages. Over the years, I’ve developed a system of stars, exclamation
When they ‘can’t remember’
Have you pondered what it is about affairs that interferes with memory? There’s something about memory and affairs that’s baffling. When you question your spouse and receive the response
The cheating was mutual
In working with affairs, I hear the wide variety of excuses given for infidelity. The excuses shift the blame away from the cheater. When the blame can’t be shifted
Considering the unthinkable
Have you considered the ‘unthinkable?’ What I mean by the ‘unthinkable’ is considering what happens when your spouse confronts your AP and what happens next. Let me assure you
