You can make it through this. There may be times you wonder if you can just make it through the day. When you’re struggling with your spouse’s affair, one of the struggles that you will have to face and overcome is discouragement.
Discouragement uses any setback, bad news, emotion and thoughts in pressuring into giving up. Discouragement has a way of magnifying the pain of any hurt, be it emotional, mental, physical or spiritual.
When discouragement gets a foothold, it also remove hope. It feeds off all the bad news and starts gnawing on any hope that you have.
Not only does discouragement take away hope, it thrives on revenge and negative energy. It loves drugs and alcohol.
It loves it when you experience depression, since it only grows in strength during those times.
You can break free from the discouragement and its paralyzing poisonous words. It will have you thinking that “nothing will ever change”, “the pain will never go away”, “cheaters never change”, “you are not worth loving”, “You will never be loved”, and other lies.
The more you believe discouragement’s lies, the more you will be under its power.
Recognize the lies for what they are. Realize that each day brings new hopes.
Acknowledge that change can and does happen. It may be slow, but it happens. There are times that your emotions do lie and deceive.
What you’re feeling now is not the reality of what is going on. Feelings can deceive, especially those emotions deriving their energy from negative feelings.
There’s hope. When you turn off the negative messages and negative emotions, you can begin realizing that hope exists.
Each day that you turn those things off, you’ll see the hope clearer and clearer. It may seem fuzzy at first, but it becomes clearer.
Hope starts with refusing to believe the lies of discouragement. Although it seems counter-intuitive, giving thanks for what happened is a powerful tool in turning discouragement around.
In the downloadable “Affair Recovery Workshop“, you’ll receive further guidance. You’ll know what topics to bring up along with which ones to avoid.
Just knowing where to start gives you encouragement. Rather than wrestling with your own feelings of inadequacy, you can instead be taking steps toward improving your marriage.
Best Regards,
Jeff
