Did you know that just simply thinking about forgiving the cheater has benefits? The researcher Frederic Luskin of Palo Alto, found that thinking about forgiving an offender was found to improve cardiovascular function.
Imagine the benefits you could experience by actually forgiving the cheater. If just the thought of forgiving them helps you, consider what happens when you follow through on those thoughts.
You have enough stress in your daily life without a grudge complicating things. In some of the same studies, those who focus on their grudges experienced faster heart rates and higher blood pressure.
Who knew?
When you consider that the annual cost of just blood pressure medication runs from $740 to $1200 a year, it makes sense considering the option of forgiveness when it comes to the affair. That’s just the cost of the medications. If you throw in visits to the doctor to monitor and prescribe those medications, the price increases $454 for that year.
Contrary to the rumors, forgiveness doesn’t mean you’re doomed to remain the victim forever. It also doesn’t mean that you automatically forget what happened.
You may want to think of it as a gift you give yourself. By forgiving, you’re taking steps benefiting your physical and emotional health.
Who wouldn’t want a gift that improves your health, your outlook and your marriage? Surprisingly some of you choose not to forgive.
There’s plenty of reasons for not forgiving from control to fear to some other imagined payoff. It may even take more effort than you are willing to give it. In my mind the perceived benefits of not forgiving are not worth the cost.
When just the thought of it has benefits, to me, its’ something worth considering. Affair recovery is not for wimps. You need the best health and mental functioning you can muster in dealing with it.
My answer for forgiveness is the video “Forgiveness: Stop the Pain, Tear down the walls and remove the roadblocks”. In it, I take you step by step through the forgiveness process.
The lessons you learn may save your marriage and preserve your health at the same time. Order your copy today.
Best Regards,
Jeff
