Determining the “right” thing to do is not always easy. What the “right” thing to do is has a great deal to do with what standard you use. That standard will also determine what options are available. If you go to a lawyer, they will inform you concerning your legal options, if you go to a pastor, they will give you the Biblical options, if you go to a counselor they will consider the psychological options. You will have to live with the options you choose to follow. You will also have to choose what options are even under consideration. There may be legal or social options that are not acceptable concerning your spiritual convictions. It is during times of choices that you discover what are your convictions and what are your preferences. Do you prefer not to seek divorce or is divorce not even an option considered?
You may want to consider your circumstances, your spiritual beliefs/convictions, what your advisers tell you, what logic dictates, what that ‘still small voice inside’ says and what your “gut” tell you to do. Consider what each of the above list tells you and how it lines up with the others. You may want to ask questions concerning peoples reasons for suggesting various options. “What made you suggest that I …….?” is a question that can give you some insight.
Doing the right thing does not mean that it is the easiest or cheapest path. You also have to consider what is the best choice for you, your family, your convictions. Each of these do play a part in the decisions under consideration. If you are used to giving injust in order to ‘keep the peace”, then doing the right thing will be a new challenge for you.
These are just a few guidelines to consider during your time of making choices.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
