Some marriage experts advocate the use of fantasy in couple’s relationship. They often take the position that it will bring added excitement and fun to the marriage. It is often packaged as a remedy for things becoming stale, routine or boring. When the couples incorporate more fantasy, their relationship does spice up.
Few consider the potential danger of highly active fantasy oriented people. One of those dangers is that the use of fantasy can be turned onto others, igniting the passion of that relationship rather than yours. Once fantasy has been introduced, what is to stop your spouse from fantasizing about cheating, or cheating with someone who they fantasize as being their spouse. The situation quickly gets out of hand. The added excitement is not always controllable. Unleashing the power of fantasy can also open a can of unexpected problems as well.
So before you put on those fishnet hose, stiletto heels or that new suit and passion arousing after shave, consider you need to approach the matter with caution. Yes, the dress up is fun and exciting. In all the dressing up and fantasy role play, someone removed the warning label about the potential danger that lies within the fantasy.
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Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
3 Responses
Thank you for this advice. Someone had recommended fantasy to me as a way of bringing my husband closer to me. But your statements make sense, and I will find another way.
Your very welcome Yuki. Although the use of fantasy is popular, it is not very effective. Like the old Dusty Springfield song about how “Wishing and Hoping” is no replacement for action.