Affairs, unlike other acts, stir strong reactions in people. Those around you will make judgments about what occurred and whether or not it was deserved. Without knowing the facts, decisions will be made within their minds. Since they make these choices based on their experiences and values, those around you will often not be objective in responding to you and your needs.
Affairs bring out projection and fantasies more than muggings or assault crimes ever could. People can listen to you and provide support for those crimes, yet affairs have a way of blurring the lines. What were once clear cut rules and boundaries are blurred. Many times those around us can’t see objectively because they would have to be honest with themselves about their actions and past history. Rather than face the pain associated with honesty, it is easier to either avoid it or blame someone else for the affair.
There are also times that you may be in so much pain, that you can not receive support even if it were available to you. The pain of affairs goes deep. The depth of such pain makes it difficult for you or those around you to discuss and comfort you. The pain, although intense will not last forever. It will fade through time if you let it.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
