When an attractive man or woman comes onto you, it should raise questions. You may be attractive, which could explain things. It could be that you are sending out signals that you are an ‘easy victim’. That does not excuse their coming onto you, although it does reveal something about your thinking. Another question is that of ‘hidden agendas’. Although your agenda may be to get them in the sack, they may have other plans. It is not beyond desperate people to use desperate methods to obtain their goals. Their goal may be to gain a husband/lover, gain a victim that they can pump for money, spread the misery of their medical condition, or distract themselves from other issues they are dealing with. In such cases, you are merely their victim. It is not that there is anything special about you. You just happened to fit all the items the lover was looking for on their shopping list. You fit the ‘profile’ of what they were looking for. When the seduction happens too easily, there is often a reason for it. In their eyes, you are merchandise.
So, when things happen too easily, or someone comes onto you or your spouse, there is usually a reason. That reason can explain a great deal.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
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Amen sadly …and those that NEED to HEED this seldom are readers of this blog. It should be a high school requirement to inform kids of what is going on under the guise of ‘friendship’ or ‘love’ ….I think now that there are more clarifications in some churches dealing with what marriage involves …but the singles need to recognize the predatory aspect of those who come on to them
Sadly the idea of courtship has been distorted but is becoming more and more a consideration among those who have taken seriously the abuses that are now rampant among those who are prime for romance but come up short because of being unlearned., uninstructed or unwise.
All things Proverbs would be helpful to heed …but some get this idea too late and have become targets and victims….”street smarts” come at a very high price.
Many young girls and women growing up sheltered need more instruction in this domain since many do not have fathers who are educated or care to be as to the protective function they can fulfill in instructing their children and in filtering out the various candidates for their young people as they enter the marriageable age.
Far from being an archaic idea….this function of a father is very important and all but a lost art .
The world has taken over the education of youth now for several generations regarding all things ….romance has become a sport rather than learning what LIFE purpose is …as God reveals it to us for our good and His glory …
Thank you for bring this topic up …too bad it is only published toward those already harmed by this sort of thing….the textbook on life is often unread gathering dust and family births and deaths rather than being APPLIED and taught during a child’s life in not just words but having a living example as parents are commanded to be to their children.
I admired the recent programs of the Duggars and also the “United Bates of America’ …two families who are open for us to observe them making effort to raise godly children , equipped for life from birth to learn how God would have us view all things…I appreciate the encouragement these families offer as they allow us to come into their homes ….I do not think you can ‘fake’ this kind of family life….such a hopeful view into what life of a family can look like as people endeavor to learn and apply the Word of GOD .
This reaches beyond any denomination because when raising children and training them to follow the Lord it is where the ‘rubber meets the road’ in terms of applying truth …the fruit indicates the powerful effect of being diligent and interactive with GOD and ones family.
Yea ! GOD!