A major challenge in the aftermath of an affair is keeping ones head clear and heart calm. When news of the affair is realized, there is often a sense of helplessness. Some have compared the initial reaction to the experience of drowning. It contains elements of feeling overwhelmed and sinking. It is during this time, that you will need your wits about you.
In your mind turn the situation into a problem that needs solving. Think in terms of what is the problem? Where is the pain coming from? What are my options? What are the pluses and minuses of each of those options? Making this kind of shift in thinking will help you see things that you did not see before.
Clear thinking in the chaos will make the difference in how well you survive the situation. My program on surviving an affair contains even more of these kind of action items to help a person through the trauma of an affair.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
