Secrets and affairs go hand in hand life peanut butter and jelly. Even once the affair is discovered, oftentimes the fascination with secrets goes on for a while. Secrets are exciting and have their own kind of thrill. Breaking the cycle of an affair also includes breaking the cycle of secret activities. There is an adage used in the recovery community that also applies to affairs. The adage is “You are as sick as your secrets”. When people have and keep a lot of secrets, there is usually an equal amount of pathology to go with it. It is not that secrets are pathological, it’s that pathology thrives in the world of secrets and rumors. In responding to secrets, listen to your gut and look at the facts rather than listen to the rhetoric.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
