Instant coffee, instant noodles, and instant fixes on your problems, why don’t business people also sell a quick fix for rebuilding your marriage?
Even if our world is obsessed with everything quick, the simple answer is that there are no quick fixes for rebuilding your marriage. If anybody tells you of a quick fix, then you had better prepare because your marriage might just get short-circuited more.
Rebuilding your marriage takes time and you have to delve deep into yourself to expose the deepest questions you want to ask. If you have an idea of the problems that have caused the affair, then bring it out into the open. Open and honest discussion is definitely better than a cold war. This process will require courage from you and from your spouse because it is never easy to answer the questions that we ourselves are afraid to ask.
Both of you should make a commitment to be honest and really delve on the issues that plagued you. Without such courage, you will forever tiptoe around the issues instead of addressing them for what they truly are. Alongside this commitment to be honest, you should also reaffirm the love that you hold for each other. In the end true love—the tough kind of love—can help you through the storm of an affair and its aftermath.
