Infidelity and Religion

Although many religions address the topic of ‘infidelity’, when it comes to marital infidelity, the game changes. Although many religions frown on infidelity, some with the prospect of banishment or death as a consequence for being an ‘infidel’ or turning one’s back on one’s faith, marital infidelity is viewed differently.

When in comes to marriage, although the same word-“infidelity” is used to identify the acts of disloyalty and betrayal. Many men and women change the meaning of the word in both their thinking and behavior. This double-standard is often confusing.  The double standard is one of those items that makes understanding infidelity a daunting task.

There are various strategies used to excuse the infidelity. Some say, they do not have to remain loyal to a spouse who is not ‘of the same faith’, or changing the definition of what constitutes infidelity. They may also claim that if there is no copulation or chance of pregnancy, then there was no infidelity. Some apply the “don’t ask, don’t tell” approach which includes “what they don’t know won’t hurt them” approach to infidelity.

A common mistake is to assume that when one marries a person who is strong in their faith, there will be a reduced likelihood of infidelity. By being strong in their faith, the definition of faith runs the gamut from regular attendance at religious worship to radical adherence to the articles of faith. Those who seriously adhere to their faith are less likely to have affairs than the general public, yet it is not 100% safe. Keep in mind that partners who advocate fidelity to their faith, that same advocacy does not always apply to marital relationships. Even among the pastor, preachers, priests and religious leaders, infidelity is common.

Best Regards,

Jeffrey Murrah