Carrying hurt is burdensome. I learned about that heavy load when I carried a grudge for a couple of years.
At the time, I was in college and one of my professors hurt me. Rather than deal with the issue, I put it off. I carried on a stealth campaign or defacing flyers announcing him speaking and talking bad about him.
Carrying that hurt had made me into someone I didn’t want to be.
I wondered if he was hurting as bad as I was about what happened. While holding onto the grudge, I was miserable. Perhaps, the rumors I started and flyers I defaced were making him hurt. (They didn’t but, I thought I felt better after having done something).
It took me a while, but I realized that I was the one carrying the hurt. If I wanted relief, that was where it would have to begin. The incident taught me some valuable lessons about forgiveness. Although I’d been done wrong before, this time it was different.
In the past, I did my part in my hurts, but this time, I was innocent. I had been done wrong in my mind. Being done wrong when you’ve done no wrong hurt worse than where I’d done my share of wrongs.
The pain of being done wrong when you’ve done no wrong is a hurt that cries out for redress. In order to get over the hurt, I felt I had to do something about it.
Carrying around the hurt and not dealing with the issue was getting me nowhere but, more hurt.
You may feel that you’ve done nothing wrong, yet you’re left carrying the hurt of the affair. The affair may have reminded you of some earlier life hurts.
You may be putting off dealing with the hurts. You may be carrying on your own stealth campaign, thinking you’re hurting them back when in reality, its only serving to vent your spleen a little.
If any of these situations describe what you’re dealing with, you’ll benefit from forgiveness. Forgiveness is not going to make everything right, but it sure will lighten the load from the burden you’ve been carrying.
The video, “Forgiveness: Stop the pain, Tear down the walls and Remove the Roadblocks” is what you need. It guides you through what you need in letting go of that burden you’ve been carrying.
There’s plenty more things you could be doing in your relationships if that burden wasn’t weighing you down. You can do something about it other than continuing the struggle another day.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
