Some people have the mistaken notion that trust could not be repaired once it is broken. It is true that rebuilding trust is never easy, yet given time and commitment on both spouses, trust can be rebuilt.
Trust is broken when expectations are violated and some promises are broken so much. An affair is definitely a violated expectation. When you said your vows during the wedding ceremonies, your promise to be together in sickness and in health; for poorer or for richer, you made a very profound promise. In the instance that an affair by any spouse occurs, trust is broken!
If you are the one who felt cheated and your spouse was involved in an affair, you need first to deal with the stress and even the trauma related to the affair. You also need to check if your partner is trustworthy and if the violation of your trust will occur again.
The first major question that the victim needs to answer is whether the victim is willing to reconcile. The answer to this question will only be arrived at through a talk with the spouse and try to work out reconciliation. If the spouse who had an affair is willing to commit, then, this becomes the first step towards reconciliation and healing.
