When you are working through the damage of an affair, one of the issues that eventually needs to be dealt with is that of dealing with personal needs and wants. Although to some people this may seem like a simple topic, in the aftermath of an affair, it is not so easy. Since the emotions are so raw, there are often feelings of guilt and confusion concerning what those needs are and how to meet them. Since many people do not actually work through their needs, this is an area that is often neglected or misapplied.
When unmet needs arise, there is often a confusion over what those needs are and this matter is further complicated by using sex to address every need. Sex is important, but it is inadequate in meeting every need. Before using sex as a “fix it all”, you and your spouse will need to first, identify what your needs are versus what your wants are. Once you have separated those out, you can begin coming up with a game plan on how to meet those needs. It is work, yet it is worth it.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrha
