In the aftermath of an affair, people do not think clearly. The difficulty thinking makes it especially challenging to identify key decision points. One of those is “When should I leave?” If your physical safety is in danger, you need to leave. Although that seems simple, when a person has been traumatized, they do not think clearly on such topics. In their mind, bruises can heal and the choking does not get that bad, etc. Since emotions are so volatile in the aftermath of an affair, if there is any history of physical abuse toward you or from you, then questions about safety and leaving need to be asked.
If there has been physical abuse toward the children, you need to leave. This presents a significant safety issue. If such is occurring, you need to remove yourself and children from the situation immediately. Abuse toward the pets or animals is also a glaring warning light that the situation is dangerous.
Safety is a prime concern. No emotional issues can be worked through if there is not an atmosphere of physical safety. Emotional and spiritual safety are also concerns, although they are worked through in different manners.
It is my hope that this helps you during this challenging time in your life.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
