There are times when I read something that makes me stop and take notice. Although many news items and articles these days are pulp, there are some writers who’ve definitely put some thought into what they are writing.
One of these is Camille Paglia. Although I don’t always agree with her, she makes statements I can’t ignore. She is definitely someone whose put thought into what she writes.
A quote I came across recently was “We cannot have a world where everyone is a victim.” “I’m this way because my father made me this way. I’m this way because my husband made me this way.” Yes, we are indeed formed by traumas that happen to us. But then you must take charge, you must take over, you are responsible.”
I like her approach to trauma and dealing with it. Traumas, like adultery leave scars on your soul. Those scars aren’t pretty and they remind you of pain you endured. Those wounds require healing.
You face the choice of wanting healing or wanting life-long handicapped status.
After you acknowledge the scar, you face choices about what you’re going to do about it. What you do with the scar left by the trauma is an important consideration.
You may not have had any say so in how the trauma happened, but you do have say so in dealing with the scars left behind by it. How will you respond to Camille Paglia’s telling you that ‘you must take charge, you must take over, you are responsible?’
Are you willing to take charge and start that part of your own healing? When ignored, those scars keep you stuck in victimhood. Rather than staying frozen in time chosen by the trauma, you can instead, move past it.
When you take charge and start dealing with the effects of the trauma, you start healing, those scars, including the ones that aren’t seen on the outside.
In the video “Overcoming Affair Trauma“, I share with you ways of getting unstuck and moving past the trauma and regaining a life.
Keeping it real,
Jeff
