There are some couples who actually plant seeds for their own destruction within the marriage. One way this occurs is through the use of fantasy and toys. Although many couples find that these may enhance their playtime, there is a hidden danger. The hidden danger is that such practices often lead to you or your spouse developing a taste for the toys and fantasies. This danger becomes apparent when a seducer or seductress dresses or wants to play the same game. Since the sensitivity to the game is already there, the seduction is half-done when it begins. The stiletto heels make you look nice, but you will want your husband attracted to you rather than your stiletto heels. If he is attached to the stilettos more than you, then the next person wearing stilettos will find it easy to attract him. Fetishes, by their very nature, focus on attaching emotions to the objects rather than the person wearing them. So, the same reaction will occur whenever someone else wears the fetish object or toy the next time.
One of the things that swingers find exciting is the dressing up for the event. The excitement of the toys and fantasy is one of the ways used to keep people hooked into such lifestyles.
Best Regards,
J Murrah
