Rebuilding the marriage relationship after your spouse cheats is hard work. It strains your heart, your patience and your faith. It takes you way out of your comfort zone. You may find yourself dealing with issues and feelings you never imagined. Yes, I know you did not sign up for this. What you are going through is not what you imagined.
As you go through the struggle, eventually you will face the challenging question of “What is your word worth?”. Although you may not have asked it that way, it is a question that you will consider in one form or another. When you promised “..until death do us part”, are you a person of your word. Do you suddenly find loopholes and ways out of your promise. Do you make excuses to break your word. Is your love conditional, where you only love them if they are going to love you back?
What if they don’t love you back? Are you going to call it quits are “is your word worth something?”. Do you have faith that God will equip you to fulfill your promise? or is that asking too much? The cheating will stretch your faith in yourself, your spouse and God. You will grow in ways you never imagined.
In the event that they don’t love you back, how are you going to handle it? What are your options?
Are you going to force them to love you? Are you going to love them despite their response to you? Have you reached your limits? Are there limits to your love? These are tough questions, and require tough answers. You will find out if your love is conditional or unconditional. Your spouse will find out if you love conditionally or unconditionally.
“What is your word worth?”
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
