When you ask for ‘more information’, you are opening a Pandora’s Box of trouble. You may have good intentions for doing so, yet that does not change the results.
You may just be trying to contain a situation or making a plan to deal with the situation and you want to know “how” bad the situation is.
In most cases, it is worse than you imagined. The messes that people get themselves into can boggle your mind. There may be a time for investigating their lover and other matters. That is a matter to address further down the road of recovery.
You main task at this point is to ‘love’ you spouse, even though you feel they don’t deserve it. You want them to run into your arms rather than the arms of their lover. You need to start repairing the relationship you have with them at home rather than doing ‘search and destroy’ missions against their lover or lovers.
I know this approach is counter-intuitive. I know you want to find out more. That information has already destroyed your spouse, do you want it to destroy you and what is left of your family as well? Knowing all the details has a cancerous effect. It eats away at your heart, and your thoughts. It steals your peace of mind. If it was something on the supermarket shelf, it would have large warning label and not be FDA approved.
Before rushing out to find out all you can, make sure the foundation of your relationship with your spouse.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
I address the topic of what is in a cheater’s mind at www.AffairRecoverySecrets.com
For more on the dangers of ‘too much information’ consider purchasing my e-book, “How to Cope with a Cheating Spouse” which goes into further detail on the topic.
