Affairs by their very nature bring separation. Thy cut the cheater off from you. If you are the cheater, you are separated from all your loved ones, with the only person you have connection with being the lover. The affair with all its passion and intensity, brings with it a lonely, isolated prison. The prison often forces the whole family into isolated cells. They may not realize it at the time, but they know something is wrong. They know that the relationships are not right. You know that the relationships are not right, but may not be sure what this is due to. At first you may assume that the separation is about you. You may think that you are going crazy. You are not going crazy when you feel cut off from your spouse and they act like nothing is wrong. Such behavior would make anyone ‘feel’ crazy. The double message is confusing.
When this happens, it is time to act. Work at re-connecting. Re-establish your connection with your family. You will need their support as you deal with the affair.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
