Many of the country colloquialisms have a way of speaking the plain truth. In the modern age there are many terms and phrases that are used to justify ‘having an affair’. Terms like self-fulfillment, self-gratification, “She completes me”, “I deserve to be happy”, “I feel like a whole new man”, etc.. When a parent has an affair, it is just plain selfishness, no matter what kind of smooth talking terms are used. This is especially apparent on holidays, when the infidel wants to enjoy the holiday with their special person and don’t give a rip how it inconveniences their children and other family members. The infidel is too caught up in making themselves happy, even when it leaves others emotionally devastated. When the infidel marries, they bring a sure source of misery into the family.
What makes it really bad, is that every holiday season or birthday, the family is reminded again of the whole affair. Emotions are dragged through the pain every time they see the infidel and their partner. Although they are happy, no one else is. The infidel often puts pressure on family members to accept their paramour and be happy as well. The more pressure, the more misery.
In my own family, I endured these episodes. The infidel parents want the kids to talk to them, although any discussion of the affair or how they feel about it is OFF LIMITS. The infidel parent is only interested in their loneliness, horniness, pain, etc. They are oblivious when it comes to how their actions leave their children devastated.
In trying to make sense of the situation, all the talk about how they deserve to be happy and life is too short not to be happy, they are adults, blah, blah, blah. An old timer would be able to cut through all the talk and call it like it is…”It’s just plain selfishness”.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
