It’s inevitable that the cheater experiences unhappiness. In their search for lust and passion they don’t find happiness, but instead guilt and remorse.
Cheating always has consequences. Some cheaters may delay those consequences, but they will occur.
There’s no avoiding them. When the cheater is wealthy they can purchase a greater delay, but they can’t avoid the consequences.
The law of consequences is 1) there are always consequences of cheating and 2) the consequences will always be greater than imagined.
The second part of the ‘law of consequences‘ is often overlooked in the beginning, but it catches up with the cheaters as well. Even though you forgive them of their cheating, there is no escaping the consequences or the severity of the consequences.
Forgiveness doesn’t remove the consequences.
With all these consequences, is it any wonder that the cheater is unhappy? They have lied, cheated, deceived and indulged in unbridled passions to which they were not entitled.
The consequences my be physical, emotional or spiritual. As part of those consequences, some part of them will die.
The death may be some of their soul, their sensitivity, their conscience, or something else. The affair will take something from them.
They may not want to face it, but it will. They will not be the same after the affair as they were before the affair. The affair changes them from the inside out.
Rather than be blind-sided by the consequences, steps can be taken. In the video “Help for the Cheater: Starting the Road to Recovery“, you can learn about what changes are needed.
Not only are changes needed, it’s also important making those changes in the right order.
Best Regards,
Jeff
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Is this really true? My wife cheated on me after 49 days of marriage. She kept the affair going all of this past December to end our marriage. Her affair partner didn’t want her and I tried to save our marriage through Jan 27th. Within weeks she hooked up with another man ( very wealthy I might add) and has been in a relationship with him since mid February. Our divorce isn’t finale yet and she’s living her dream life in a mansion with her second guy. She seems to have benefited from her affair. She has had no consequences at all.
Eddie,
I am not sure what you are asking when you referred to “Is this really true?”. Since I deal with many aspects of affairs, I am not sure which one you are asking about. I will be glad to answer your question if you can clarify it for me.