When you are hurting, you may find yourself crying. Given the amount of hurt that you have been forced to deal with, it is only natural to cry. There are many health benefits to crying. Tears cleanse away some toxins and release hormones that help us in dealing with what we are faced with. It can lower blood pressure and lubricate the eyes as well. Crying may also aid in the bonding of people. The folk wisdom was that ‘crying is good for you’. There is validity in that old saying. I worry more about those who carry the pain inside and begin shutting down the systems in their bodies rather than those who release them.
Crying can help bring a couple together in many ways.
With all the upside to crying, is there any downside? Yes. Frequent crying can eventually have the effect of pushing others away. In dealing with an affair, your cheating spouse may be turned off by the displays of vulnerability, when it is the main way you use to cope. Although most people experience a sense of emotional release after crying, there are some who persist in crying to avoid facing the pain they are struggling with. They may cry, cry and then cry some more in order to avoid having to face or do something. In these cases, crying becomes counter-productive.
If you are using crying to avoid facing something or doing something, you may have to ‘open the curtain’ and face it rather than hide behind the veil of tears. There is a time for crying and a time for acting. Learning which time to cry and which time you need to act is often a challenge.
When you are ready to take action, consider my e-book which takes you through the various stages involved in the process of recovery.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
