On recently attending the wedding of one of my cousins, I was reminded of the importance of the wedding ceremony and the vows that are made. Two people promise to love, honor and cherish one another until ‘death do us part’. Those vows sound good, yet I wonder if most people only pay them lip service and never think through what they mean. For many couples, the marriage lasts until you grow tired or are unhappy with your spouse. When affairs happen, rather than work through what happened, you choose to bail on the marriage. At that point, it makes no difference what you promised, you choose to leave citing the how your spouse cheated on you.
Then there are the wedding guests. They forget that when they sign the register, in effect they are saying that they will support the marriage and help out the couple. How many of those present at the ceremony are the very people who encourage you to ‘dump the chump’ or ‘ditch the bitch’ when the going gets tough or there is an affair? Sadly, many of those ‘guests’ have forgotten the significance of their breaking of their oath as well.
You may not be able to hold everyone accountable for keeping their oaths and vows. The most important person you can hold accountable is yourself. What is your promise or oath worth? Did you mean what you said?
It is my hope that you take a few minutes and think. Take time to ponder and consider your oath. You may accuse the cheater of lying, but are you guilty of the same offense?
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
2 Responses
Thanks Jeff. This one definitely made me think. It’s easy to get caught up one’s pain caused by the wayward spouse and the fact that they broke their vow. At the same time, as you state, I have to remember that I too took a vow and that I must try to remain strong and attempt to get through this phase in life. The door does swing both ways.
Scott,
I have found that it is easy to cite other’s wrongs as a way to excuse one’s own wrongs. It is a hard realization that the door swings both ways and in terms of surviving and rebuilding it is important to make sure that your own house is in order. It does not make what they did any less painful. It does make for less mess to clean up and fewer accusations when it comes time for making up.
Thanks for commenting. Feel free to ask questions or make future comments.
Jeff