Letting go of the obsessive thoughts involves breaking a habit. Your mind is used to drifting back to the ‘old’ way of thinking. Like other habits, you will need time and patience in making it through the changes. There will be slips. It is important to accept them as ‘slips’ and move on. Getting bogged down in either the thoughts or a self-defeating mindset are both dangerous. Each of them mire you down in the past and keep you from looking ahead or improving things. It is important that you work to make things better, NOT the idea that “I want it the way it was”. The way it was may have been comfortable for you, but it led to the situation you are in now.
Although routines, including routines in thinking may provide some security, they keep you in a rut. You need to change your routine, change your thinking and change your life. You may want to rearrange the furniture and decorations to provide some of the needed changes. It is also important that you give yourself permission to change. When you continue holding onto the idea of “I want it like it was”, you are not allowing change to happen. Since your mind does what you tell it, such comments and thinking actually prevent you from letting go of thoughts. Give yourself permission to change, and permission to change your thoughts.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
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