You and your spouse may have different meanings to the words that you use. Although you may both talk about things such as commitment and loyalty, the words may have different meanings for each of you. To the cheater, commitment and loyalty may mean nothing more than you are their main squeeze and that they will remain married to you. You may be wanting them to be monogamous, whereas they believe in ‘sharing themselves’ with others. They want to find themselves, which often means ‘looking for love in all the wrong places’, including the arms of another. So they may be saying the right words to you, yet what they mean by the words and what you mean are two VERY different things.
What this means is that you need to pin them down on what they mean when they use those words. Don’t assume that when you hear the word that they mean what you think you hear. Make sure you understand before you agree.
Best Regards for a good weekend,
Jeffrey Murrah
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2Cr 10:5 Casting down imaginations,
and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God,
and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
That is the ‘HOW to protect and keep a commitment
The only way this works is to love enough to care enough about whatever one is committed to to DO this.
Zaza,
That is some strong medicine for commitment. Although it is strong, that kind of medicine is often needed. It consists of doing a spiritual based intervention. In many cases, victories are won in the spiritual realm prior to being one in the physical sphere.
Hmmm …Good point…intervention ….”SPIRITUAL intervention ” PRIOR to …victory in the physical realm….{…”Lord help my unbelief …!” ]
Thank you again for your continued support. Many times the pain of an affair shakes our beliefs. We all need encouragement.