Have you told yourself you’re being “dumped for a newer model?” Consumerism has so crept into marriage relationships, it’s now common place for people to refer to themselves like products being switched out for the newer, flashier and faster models.
That use up and throw away mindset has invaded our family relationships.
You may have even accepted what the cheater told you as inevitable. When automobile companies keep making newer models you begin thinking that something is wrong with the older models. When you apply that kind of thinking to relationships, you may view yourself as the older less desirable model.
Your spouse just seems to go out to the girl tree and pick the latest forbidden fruit off the tree. What’s worse is that they do it with little to no effort. It’s as if you’ve been trained that being the ‘older model’ means that one day you’ll be replaced.
Your thinking on that point is warped. You’ve been duped by the consumer mindset of use then discard.
Let’s examine the facts:
When a company like Porsche sells the same 911 model of its car for 50+ years, you realize the ‘newer model’ is better mentality is mistaken. Think about that. Porsche sells basically the same old car for 50+ years. The brand is still in demand, even though the basic design is not new. The owners don’t get tired of driving the same old car day after day.
It’s one thing to be told such a line like ‘you’re being dumped for a newer model’, and quite another when you resign yourself in accepting it. When you accept it, that line carries with it the assumption that you are inferior and not as ‘good’ as others.
The cheater may have dumped you, yet when you resign yourself to accept such a statement from them, it does a number on your head. They can lie, lie, lie, and those lies remain lies until you start believing them.
When you start believing their lies, you begin fulfilling them. You may want to blame the cheater for telling you the lies, yet when you believe the falsehoods they’ve been feeding you, that’s a whole other problem.
If you’ve been believing the lies you’ve been told, you will want a copy of “Why wasn’t I enough?” The thought provoking chapters will begin waking you up to what’s really going on, inside of you and inside of your marriage.
Best Regards,
Jeff
