If you have thought about an affair, have you considered what it would do for you? Having an affair will bring excitement and passion, yet the price tag of that excitement and passion is high. First, there is the risk of communicable diseases, then there is the emotional upheaval the affair brings. With emotional turmoil, there are the physical symptoms that go with it which includes sleepless nights, high blood pressure, nervous stomach and other issues. The emotional turmoil also impacts the state of mind of all parties surrounding you. That means that you are increasing the risk of domestic violence or murder within your own family. Sure the risk is always there, yet when you have an affair, you are tripling if not quadrupling the risk of such an event happening. If you knew that making particular adjustments to your car would increase your chance of a wreck by 3-4x would you do it? If you would not do it in your car, what would make you think that doing it at home is any better? The equivalent behavior would be like drinking and texting while driving at a high speed. If your neighbor did that you would call them a fool and not let your children ride with them, yet when you have an affair, you put your family at risk in a similar manner.
Bear in mind that even the word ‘passion’ means pain producing. When you hear it said that an affair will increase passion, it is true. What is left out is showing you the kind of pain that passion produces. Your emotions will be stronger both in the pleasant and especially stronger in the unpleasant area.
In the relationship dynamic, affairs bring with them lies and deceit. They also bring an increase in selfishness and fighting. If you really want to stir things up in a home, an affair will do it.
Mentally, an affair will change your brain chemistry. The new connections formed in your brain are permanent. You alter your brain when you have an affair, which brings new ways of looking at yourself and the world around you.
If you want to bring in the new age mindset, your affair binds you spiritually to the lover. You create a new bond between your souls that you will never be able to break.
When you bring in the Biblical dimension, adultery is a capitol offense. It brings with it a curse on you, your family, your home and your nation. Yes, that is a strong statement, yet that is the reality of the Biblical price tag for an affair. What makes it worse is that the curse sticks around for 3-4 generations. This amounts to conducting demonic blood rituals in your home and front yard. I suspect that many churches do not present this due to how many toes it would step on and how many feathers would get ruffled if the truth was presented to the congregation.
I have not even touched on the generational impact of affairs and how the family patterns continue for some time. As you can see, the price tag is high. I suspect that Ashley Madison and the others promoting affairs do not tell people the true cost.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
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Yes,,,,nothing like OPENING the DOOR to have the sanctuary of the ONE FLESH TEMPLE polluted either.
1Cr 6:19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost [which is] in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
The heart is the ‘sanctuary”
In the OT …only the HIGH PRIEST entered into the sanctuary on designated days of the year.
He went through a thorough protocol of purification because if he entered in without …he would DIE
They used to tie a rope with bells on him so that if he perchance died they could pull him out ,because no one dared to enter into the sanctuary unclean or without the proper authority
Sexual intercourse is the sanctified ONE FLESH of the twian ORDAIN individuals joined by GOD that are permitted to ‘enter into ‘ the sanctuary of this act as a worship and honor to GOD …and ADULTERY VIOLATES that ..and POLLUTES that sanctuary!
No wonder it is such a serious and contemptible decision.
It is to violate the very sanctuary of GOD in the ONE FLESH TEMPLE that is made up of a husband and wife.
That is why it is called HOLY matrimony …what GOD has joined no man puts assunder!
When I hear the lame demonic ways my husband has tried to justify his choice to commit adultery AND to continue in it ..AND to bring forth TWO WITNESSES in the form of illegitimate children to their sin I shudder to think of what lies ahead for those who are not repentant.
The admission of this as sin does not equate to CONFESSION of it AS SIN with understanding of the true depth of depravity is is .
Luk 13:3 I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish.
Luk 13:5 I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish.
When I say TWO WITNESSES….that is what is REQUIRED to condemn someone.
When those Pharisees brought the woman caught in adultery ‘in the very act;” they were not so concerned with the woman being judged as to HOW Jesus would JUDGE her….They were watching to see if he would conclude judgment based upon the LAW ‘s requirement for there to be TWO to THREE witnesses …in agreement
When they all walked away …with not even the MAN who she was supposed to have committed adultery with being there [ because he probably was NOT even actually doing it …or worse ..was ONE of those among them ! ]
The point of fact was that there were NO witnesses….to accuse her!
So why would JESUS …he could not even AS HE would have HAD to IF there had been two to three witnesses…by their laws…AND HE told her ‘GO and SIN NO MORE ” because it is pretty sure that when He left town IF she was caught again …and witnesses were found then she would suffer under the judicial laws of that time .
Deu 17:6 At the mouth of two witnesses, or three witnesses, shall he that is worthy of death be put to death; [but] at the mouth of one witness he shall not be put to death.
Not only have my husband and his adulteress have themselves that are testimony against their choices but the LORD Himself …and me …and our children but the two most definitive ones are the two children that they foolishly think are ‘just children ‘ and the ‘evidence of the love that made them’ …..NO they were not BORN of LOVE …they were born of sin …sadly …
No amount of juggling the alphabet will change this ….ADULTERY has HUGE penalties as you have pointed out ..not only in THIS life but …unless there is TRUE repentance….a total life change in identity from serving the flesh as lord to serving the LORD AS LORD ..that means following HIM and learning what HE would have one do …there is a HUGE penalty that is eternal
So in truth …Adultery is indeed the death penalty …ultimately but GOD has been merciful in allowing some to continue to BREATHE that they might wake up and bring ‘fruit meet for repentance’ that would be a broken heart and a contrite spirit OVER this sin …
NO excuses, minimizing .blame casting, rationalizing ,….nothing by SORROW that is more than crocodile tears
I have read so many things offering advice to the betrayed about HOW to handle their pain so that they do not ‘damage ‘ the CS …..I suppose in this ‘tolerant’ world that applying all kinds of exotic ‘techniques’ to ‘heal the marriage’ are getting some ‘results’ but the truth of this is in my estimation that it is more of the cowardly approach to trying to ‘get people saved’ by not preaching too much about sin , hell and obedience
Which in my opinion …[tell us how you really feel Zaza ! ] ….has brought the church AND society to it’s knees!
The seeker sensitive pulpit has a LOT to answer for with the feel good …mysticism mixture that will render many who think they are doing ‘ok’ with GOD …to be lukewarm and surprise “SPEWED ” out of his mouth!
This is so very VERY important in this day and time…just was reading about NC voting to sustain the ONE MAN ONE WOMAN as MARRIAGE” …Hurray …man approves of what GOD has commanded ,,!
What a day we live in!
I am very glad they put that one on the NC books…along with 32 other states I understand …with Obama’s recent announcment that HE is “for gay marriage’ I cannot deny that from what I read in the Bible in ANY testament …this ungodly position that is being pushed and finding many weak spots in the dike
[ pardon ..no pun intended ] of morality is one dangerous public statement but not surprising is it …our President is a TARE …
So …we see the blazing count down …no longer a show down ..it seems as we continue to lean not unto our own understanding …and KNOW that GOD has not been blind or without HIS plan that HE WILL contnue to move forward with or without anyone cooperating’
I cannot for the life of me see why ANYONE would want to risk even the least of what you have shared …but sin BLINDS…and once they OPEN the DOOR into their minds unguarded by the WORD and RESPECT FOR that Word of GOD ..and GOD Himself ..they have NO more defense against the onslaught of evil that goes around as a ROARING LION ..seeking whom he may DEVOUR
Pray for the souls of those who are lost into the mouth of this terrible destructive and seductive activity!.
Jer 23:10 For the land is full of adulterers; for because of swearing the land mourneth; the pleasant places of the wilderness are dried up, and their course is evil, and their force [is] not right.
Mal 3:5 And I will come near to you to judgment; and I will be a swift witness against the sorcerers, and against the adulterers, and against false swearers, and against those that oppress the hireling in [his] wages, the widow, and the fatherless, and that turn aside the stranger [from his right], and fear not me, saith the LORD of hosts.
Hbr 13:4 Marriage [is] honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Preaching to the choir, I know Jeff …but Ohhhh …it is such a sorrowful thing to see how adultery changes people, as you pointed out it changes brain chemistry and …did you say STRUCTURE TOO???
My husband is NOT the same man I married ….in really important ways …for HIMSELF !
Zaza,
Thank you for sharing. Adultery does change people and there are serious spiritual ramifications involved, as you referenced. These spiritual ramifications are often not dealt with in many modern churches, which is tragic on several levels.
Eze 44:7 In that ye have brought [into my sanctuary] strangers, uncircumcised in heart, and uncircumcised in flesh, to be in my sanctuary, to pollute it, [even] my house, when ye offer my bread, the fat and the blood, and they have broken my covenant because of all your abominations.