At a presentation last night, I shared the dangers of what happens when you elevate reason above doing what is right. When it comes to affairs, you know that there is a BIG difference between doing the ‘right’ thing versus being reasonable. Even when discussing what is ‘right’ what you consider the right thing may be very different than the cheater’s definition of what is ‘right’. Although it sounds progressive and adult to ‘be reasonable’, the truth is that reason is often used to justify and rationalize many behaviors. Many sexual addicts justify what they do and make it sound ‘reasonable’. In their mind, what they are doing is reasonable. There is always a reason behind what they do. Likewise, in the cheater’s mind, there is a reason for what they do. They believe that allowing the affair continue and downplaying the seriousness of what happened is being ‘reasonable’. In such cases, they have elevated reason above absolute morals. Right and wrong to them is what they can excuse rather than what absolute moral law defines as right or wrong.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
