Are you a good man? Are you a good woman? Is your spouse a good man or good woman?
If you talked about someone being a ‘good man’ or ‘good woman’ in previous generations, they would know what you meant. In today’s world a good man or woman is no longer defined as someone whose moral or having good manners.
The modern definition of being good consists of making rational choices. There’s a huge difference between doing what is right and being rational, especially when it comes to affairs.
Doing what’s right means not having an affair. Being rational means that you weigh out the pros and cons of the affair and act accordingly.
Things really get weird when you consider that many cheaters are very rational, it’s just that their logic is twisted by them being so self-centered. When you have a self-centered logic, you can rationalize just about anything, including affairs.
This weird twisting in the meaning of words is part of the reason you’ll encounter many cheaters who’ll tell you that they are “a good person”. They don’t connect being good with being moral.
They connect being good with being rational. Rational thinking has its place, yet not when it comes to affairs. It is more than ironic that the cheater will often want you to ‘be rational’ when it comes to discussing the affair.
They want you to twist your thinking around to where you can excuse what they did just like they did.
I mention all this so that when you hear the term, “good person”, you are not misled. Find out what they mean by “good person”. Their definition of what it means is likely VERY different than what you mean.
With the influence of post-modern thought, many of the old meanings have been replaced, which makes solving problems and having heart to heart discussions challenging. Post-moderns often want to take the right and wrong meanings out of our vocabulary.
They don’t want to view what they do in those terms. By shifting the meaning of such terms as ‘good person’ to where it refers to someone who makes rational choices, everything changes.
If you’re moral, but emotional rather than rational, they view you as a ‘bad person’ and themselves as a ‘good person’, since they are rational. By taking the moral aspect out, they take away the guilt and accountability associated with their actions.
These days, modern ‘good people’ have affairs. They’re fooling themselves thinking their self-imposed label of being ‘good’ balances out what they’ve done.
Their being good actually becomes part of their denial system. This will need confronting. In the video “Help for the Cheater: Starting the Road to Recovery”, you can learn what you need for starting a true turnaround.
Best Regards,
Jeff
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The age of ‘reason’ …the age of enlightenment actually is better defined by the age of entitlement!
Indeed …”rebranding’ …revisionism has brought about all of the ways that situation ethics…if they can be called that are all part of how the immoral chisel away to compromise truth….Hegelian dialectic is also one of the ways that ‘reason’ has taken up the throne of the hearts of those who are sold out to get what they can whenever they can very much because they have no reason or hope in what comes later…it is always based upon what they can GET for themSELVES now.
This is the age of MEISM …and it is flourishing despite the damage done….as mom used to say ” it depends whose Ox is being gored’! a strange way to express how people with this ‘rational’ that what they want is ‘good’ and they themselves are ‘good ‘based upon a sliding scale of what pleases them …or those they want to impress.
Jesus said it this way….
Mat 19:17 And he said unto him, Why callest thou me good? there is none good but one, that is, God: but if thou wilt enter into life, keep the commandments.
Luk 18:19 And Jesus said unto him, Why callest thou me good? none is good, save one, that is, God.
Isaiah 5:20 Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!
21 Woe unto them that are wise in their own eyes, and prudent in their own sight!
22 Woe unto them that are mighty to drink wine, and men of strength to mingle strong drink:
23 Which justify the wicked for reward, and take away the righteousness of the righteous from him!
24 Therefore as the fire devoureth the stubble, and the flame consumeth the chaff, so their root shall be as rottenness, and their blossom shall go up as dust: because they have cast away the law of the Lord of hosts, and despised the word of the Holy One of Israel.
Pro 30:12 There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness.
Deception …it is the condition of the heart of fallen man.
Jer 17:9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?
Jer 17:10 I the LORD search the heart, I try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings.
We can know the condition of our hearts the way GOD knows….He has given us the way for us to know ….!
Hbr 4:12 For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
And we can know what is in the heart of others as well …how do what they say indicate if their heart is lined up with God’s !
Luk 6:45 A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.
Does a person’s actions and words line up with God’s standards of how to live life!
The world will not agree that God’s way is the best way ….but God has recorded that Jesus CHRIST IS THE way , the truth and the life …and no man comes to God any other way!
Jhn 14:6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.
Pro 3:7 Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.
Sound advice from the Lord of wisdom….something to help us avoid the pain that deception brings when we only go after what we want ….we need to want what GOD wants and line up with that and because He loves us …his word is wisdom and WARNING as to what to avoid …sin is not bad because it is forbidden …it is forbidden because it is bad!
God loves us to warn us ….but we need to heed Him …read and heed….
Hugs!