As twisted as it sounds, some cheaters and lovers who enjoy building on your pain. The more you hurt, the more they enjoy doing what they’re doing.
They relish when you’re tormented. There’s also their cousins, which are the ones that don’t care that you’re hurting. They aren’t moved or even touched by your pain.
In the case of those who enjoy building on your pain, there’s a hatred or revenge driving them. Call it a “spirit of revenge” or hateful spite, or something else, they are driven by something bigger than themselves.
Whatever is driving them, it’s not stopped by logic. It can’t be reasoned with.You can’t win a rational argument with them about it.
You’ll find yourself frustrated if you try reasoning with them. It will be an exercise in futility.
If you want to understand them, keep in mind that “hurt people, hurt people”. Deep inside they are wanting to hurt others. They enjoy it when others are experiencing hurt.
In many cases, their hurt has nothing to do with you. You probably didn’t cause their hurt. You just happen to be the one they want to hurt.
You are their target. They are hurting and their way of dealing with it is to inflict some of their hurt on those around them.
Reacting with revenge will not get you anywhere with them. They are counting on you being in pain.
They are energized by any kind of pain or negative energy you experience. If you decide to “have a talk with them”, the angrier you get, the more they enjoy it and are energized by it.
So, what can you do? There are two choices.
You can choose to deal with the hurt and move past it. When you are no longer in pain, they loose the power they had over you.
The other option is that of either hiding or delaying your pain. Since they enjoy seeing you in pain, don’t allow them to see it.
There are some pains that you can work through and some that you have not yet worked through, which is why I present you with two options.
This will help you navigate and deal with those enjoying building on your pain.
When you’re finally ready to deal with the pain, the video “Forgiveness: stop the Pain,Tear down the walls, and Remove the roadblocks” guides you through this part of your life.
The longer you remain in pain, the more you become part of the problem as well. You can start being part of the solution by clicking on the link, filling out the form and within minutes, you can start making changes.
Best Regards,
Jeff
