Have you ever considered that you may be fixing a symptom rather than fixing the problem? I encountered this when I had a leak at my house.
A water leak in the wall flooded my home. I found myself using a wet-dry vac in sopping up the water every few hours. At that point, I was addressing the symptom of the water soaking my carpet rather than the cause of the leak itself.
Fixing a symptom is not the same things as fixing the problem.
We eventually fixed the root problem along with cleaning up the effects. With a plumbing problem you can see the source of the issue.
When it comes to affairs, it’s not always so easy seeing the root problem. You may view the lover as the source of your problem.
You may even fantasize about how removing the lover from your life will solve all of your problems and save your marriage. The lover is a symptom of a bigger problem.
Removing the lover or when the cheater leaves the lover won’t save your marriage. It takes care of a symptom, but doesn’t fix things. It removes some pain, but doesn’t fix the root problem.
Your marriage relationship needs some changes. The affair was the cheaters misplaced solution to the problems.
This means that when the affair is over, the two of you still have work to do. The source of the problem needs correcting. It’s okay to find ways of improving your marriage. Healthy marriage are always looking for ways of making things better.
One place where you can find some help during affair recovery is the support community at Restored Lifestyle. There you can share and discuss the issues that matter to you along with picking up tips and ways of doing things better.
Best Regards,
Jeff
