Whenever you encounter people who are wounded, especially fresh wounds, how do you respond? As humans, we don’t like seeing people hurt, especially with wounds involving blood.
On encountering someone who is wounded, be it a scrape, cut or major accident, you’ll find yourself facing this question. On encountering such wounding, each of you responds differently.
Some of you will help restore order to the situation, others will make calls, and some will start wound care. However you respond, these are moments of vulnerability for you and for whoever was wounded.
Some of you are fine dealing with blood, while others react with squeamishness and deliver help in other ways.
There’s something about tending to someone else’s wounds that touches us inside.
Although you may not have considered it before, an affair is a wounding. With the affair you are the one wounded rather than the one providing care.
When that happens to you, how do you respond to your own wounding?
Do you run or crawl away or do you accept what happened and work with it?
Do you deny that it’s anything more than a flesh wound?
Do you put on your macho pants and act like nothing’s happened?
How you deal with your own wounding and needs shapes your recovery. How you deal with your wound is also about your handling of your own vulnerabilities. At that moment you need help from others, yet you may fight anyone trying to help.
Fighting help or running away from it only makes recovery take longer. It also either increases or decreases the options available to you. In my video on dealing with the Affair Crisis, I address this challenge.
If you were a member of the Restored Lifestyle community, you’d have access to the video on handling the Affair Crisis as part of your membership.
One of the key aspects of healing is being able to receive and acknowledge the need for help. When you’ve been wounded, you need help. Playing the ‘macho’ card is not helping you heal any faster.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
