The topic of accusations has been a controversial one lately. With all the political uproar about Judge Brett Kavanaugh the topic of accusations has been in the forefront of popular media.
How the issue of accusations are handled will have ramifications for you as well. This is an important topic when it comes to affairs and affair recovery.
As terrible as it sounds, some people lie when it comes to affairs. There are lies about affairs that happened, which the cheater denies. There are also lies about affairs that didn’t happen.
In working with both kinds of situations, each has their own unique fingerprint. Since I’ve dealt with the lying of cheaters in previous emails and posts, I’ll forgo rehashing it.
There are some people who spread false accusations about affairs. They claim having had affairs or pregnancies that just didn’t happen.
Lies are not only about affairs. Spreading false accusations is a major part of Parent Alienation Syndrome, which is big business in the judicial system.
Just the accusation of an affair is damaging to reputations. Those making the accusations have varied motives from revenge to blackmail to collecting in frivolous lawsuits.
They may have an overactive fantasy life or wish they slept with their target. Whatever their motivations, they can be very convincing.
For false accusers, the false accusation is rehearsed so much, they can present it without hesitancy. It’s also common for false accusers to refer to their rehearsed mantra as ‘the truth‘.
This is where it confuses you. What you mean by truth and what they mean by ‘the truth’ are two different items. One is a factual accounting, the other is the rehearsed speech entitled ‘the truth’.
There are 61 subtle cues that alert you to whether the accuser if being honest. Although the cues are there, most of you don’t know what to look for.
All it takes is someone making such accusations about your spouse to alienate you from them. Their accusation acts like a poison that infects your mind.
This is one reason you want to hear your spouse out and examine the evidence prior to accepting accusations on face value.
At the Restored Lifestyle site, you can share and discuss issues like false accusations and ways of dealing with them with others who are facing similar issues.
Today is the day you need to join us.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
