While walking my dogs, I often stop and talk with the neighbors. Today while walking them I followed my routine.
During the course of our conversation, he remarked “Anyone who has an affair is an idiot!” His statement caught me off guard for a moment. Although his statement was harsh, I thought it was worth looking into.
I had viewed idiots as those who are not intellectually bright. Knowing some cheaters devise elaborate ways of hiding what they’ve done, my initial response was guarded skepticism.
Since his first wife had an affair, I understand his harshness. It cuts through all the niceties and soft peddling. He’s not a person who is subtle and indirect.
I always enjoy talking with him, although his bluntness sometimes surprises me, although I should be used to it now. His blunt statement motivated me to consider whether cheaters are idiots. So I rushed home and considered the definition of ‘idiot’.
The synonyms for idiot are private, vulgar, unskilled, foolish and simple. I went down the checklist.
Do cheaters do what they do in private? Check
Are cheaters engaging in vulgar behavior? Check
Are cheaters unskilled? In many cases, they are unskilled in solving conflicts and working through issues with their spouse or unskilled in controlling impulses. Once again, Check.
Are cheaters foolish in what they do? Since they don’t consider the consequences, they receive another check.
Are cheaters simple? Although they can devise complex plans, they are often simple in terms of engaging in unwise action. So check this one as well.
Although I initially thought he was ‘over the top’ with his comment, his statement “Anyone who has an affair is an idiot!” is true.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
