A few days ago, my phone rang with an Oregon number showing. I thought to myself “Who do I know in Oregon?” and hesitated a moment before answering.
I didn’t recognize the number, thinking it may be a spammer or telephone sales. I took a breath and answered it.
The caller wanted reassurance it was me on the line. “Is this Jeff? they asked.
After reassuring them it was indeed me, they asked about whether or not I had any more podcasts. He had listened on one and finding it helpful wanted to know if there were more podcasts of Affair Recovery Radio.
I assured him there were more, in fact, I’d done over a hundred of them along with where they could be found (actually it’s 107). He expressed his gratitude for the podcast addressing a topic related to affairs that few others addressed.
We talked about the podcast along with questions he had about his current situation. No matter how many affair situations I hear, I continue finding them heartbreaking. We discussed what some of his options were in facing the challenge in front of him.
After the call, I felt encouraged by his gratitude for addressing the topic. It met a need in his life. Little did I know back in 2015 that it would touch someone so deeply in 2019.
Gratitude goes a long way in handling heartbreaking affair situations. Even when it’s hard finding something to be grateful about. Expressing gratitude is also one of the important components of healing.
One of the ways of telling whether the cheater is genuinely making changes is whether or not they have a grateful spirit. They can talk about change, yet when there’s gratitude, they are changing.
Ingratitude is one of the early warning signs that the old attitudes and behaviors are still there. When it continues, its’ only a matter of time before they are back into old patterns.
I want to invite you to join the Restored Lifestyle group, where you can explore and address your own heartbreaking situation and how your handling it. You can also find direction in dealing with issues like fantasies, relapse triggers and more.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
