With the many commemorations of World War I being over for 100 years, it’s natural that people look back and consider the people and events. The events changed the world.
I fondly recall my grandfather having a commemorative Soldier’s memorial poster from World War I (then called the German-American War) and his unit, the Washington Artillery.
Another one of those who was part of the drama was a YMCA chaplain named Oswald Chambers. He faced the challenge of keeping the soldiers away from the brothels in Cairo. He was known for his challenging preaching. His superiors thought that his assignment was a lost cause.
One soldier told him “I hate religious people“. Chambers replied “So do I”. His answer endeared him to that soldier.
Although some wondered how successful he would be, the soldiers loved him. His genuine concern for the men and their welfare won them over. The soldiers away from home flocked around his quarters and listened intently to his preaching.
One of the challenging comments he made during his time was that “You really can’t say that you believe something until you pay a price for it”. His comment has stayed with me since reading it.
His comment has also led me to consider what people’s true values are instead of what they say they are. There’s often a disconnect between stated values and real values.
What they say is important to them and what they are willing to pay the price for are two different things. You find out what people really pay for is different than what they say is important.
Take cheaters for instance. They may say that you and your marriage are important to them. Although that’s what they say, their actions communicate something different.
With the affair, they told you that their orgasm is more important than you and their marriage to you. Think about that for a moment.
Read it aloud, “My orgasm is more important than my marriage and family”. It is such a challenging thought it takes a while for it to sink in. When you consider what they actually paid for their affair and who they robbed in doing so, you’ll begin seeing the selfishness behind it.
Being put in a position where their orgasm is more important than you is unsettling. No one wants to be replaced or be put into an inferior position. They promised to love you ABOVE all others, yet their actions show otherwise.
They showed you what is truly most important to them.
Another challenging thought is that most marriages can be turned around after an affair. The affair, with all it’s selfishness doesn’t have to mean the end of your marriage.
This is where the Affair Recovery Workshop comes in. You can choose to start working on your marriage or say not and let things continue worsening. With a few clicks you can start making improvements within minutes.
An affair means that your marriage needs attention. The cheater has already shown you what their priorities are.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
