When it comes to relationships, the online world represents a whole other dimension. This other dimension changes how relationships work, how you think and how you deal with others.
Many people view the online world as ‘unreal’ and fantasy like, although for some it’s more real that the real world itself. Things that are said and done in the online world are viewed as ‘insignificant’ although that material follows you around for years no matter where you go.
That online baggage is not something people forget after a few years. You may even find yourself bouncing back and forth between the real world and the online world.
Make no mistake, when someone steals your spouse’s heart or your heart, they are a threat, whether they are from an online relationship or an in person relationship.
They may call it an online affair, cybersex or even and emotional relationship. The change in names doesn’t diminish the threat.
Each of them has their own set of ground rules. Each of them also has their own set of threats to your marriage.
When it comes to relationships and affairs, you may hear your spouse say “It wasn’t that bad, it was just online“. With that comment, they dismiss the seriousness of their flirting or affair as if it were nothing.
They may view what they did as ‘not that bad’, yet you know otherwise. For you, the hurt and threat are real. This is not some online massive multi-player game. This is not make believe.
Your feelings are not something that are turned on and off like the computer. You know that relationships are not something that comes and go with the on/off button.
When events like this happen, your relationship needs help. At that moment, it’s clear that the two of you are not using the same set of ground rules. Each of you are literally living in separate worlds.
At those moments, you’re in an Affair Crisis. You need help in deciding what real or unreal, what’s actually a threat and what’s not. Your spouse’s comments dismissing what they did aren’t helping. Those comments are making things worse for them and you.
In my video on “Getting past the Affair Crisis” you can start finding your way through the unreality of such situations. The crisis is real. Online affairs are very much a threat to your marriage. They require action.
I encourage you to shake off the online threats and start working on your situation by ordering your copy today.
Ignoring them or treating them like they are no big deal only makes the situation more untenable.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
