Have you ever noticed how the more you give into urges, the more powerful they become in your life? Not only are they stronger, they come more often.
They can literally become the drivers of your life, where they take control and tell you what to do.
Urges are a natural part of life. They remind you that you’re alive and are human.
Each of you experience urges of one type or another. There’s nothing wrong with urges. The problems arise when you give into the unhealthy urges.
There’s also the hidden danger of ignoring the healthy urges. Ignoring the healthy urges amounts to giving into the unhealthy ones.
When you give into your darker urges, they take over larger amounts of your thinking and emotional energy. Two of the urges often found together are sex and anger.
Both of these urges have the potential of taking over your heart and mind. They not only contribute to affairs, they make recovery from them increasingly difficult as well.
The more you give into the sexual urge, the stronger it becomes. Like an incessant squeaky wheel, it constantly wants your attention and finds ways of getting it.
Once you start giving into this urge, it begins sexualizing any interaction you have. It triggers your fantasizing about everyone you meet.
Left unrestrained, it can drag you into an affair, even with someone you weren’t initially attracted to.
It’s evil twin of anger works in tandem with the sexual urge. When it takes over, anger predominates and affairs become an outlet for your anger.
Even after an affair is over, the anger and sex urges function like hidden time bombs waiting for an opportunity to unleash in your life again.
This is why having a relapse prevention plan is critical to staying affair free. Part of that plan needs to include addressing these urges.
The urges are what got your marriage into trouble in the first place. The lover is gone, but the urges remain. As long as they’re even secretly entertained and indulged, they remain a threat.
If you haven’t addressed affair relapse or curtailing the urges, it’s only a matter of time until another affair happens. Now is a good time to address these dangers.
In the video on “Overcoming Affair Relapse”, you can learn strategies for reducing risks along with becoming aware of how urges trigger problems.
Instead of being blindsided by the urges, you can have a way of dealing with them and reducing the power they have in your marriage.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
