Feeling secure is important in many areas of your life, including your property and your marriage. It’s so important that everyday you’re exposed multiple ads selling security and home monitoring systems.
Security is now big business in some areas. If it’s not home security systems, it’s some form of the latest medication showing you images of people feeling secure enough to be in public and doing things.
When I lived in the small coastal community of Shoreacres, Texas, everyone had security systems. Driving down the street you passed a vast array of reflective signs proclaiming who’s protected their homes.
Seeing all those signs often left me wondering what happened to the days when you’d call the police department when people broke in your home? Now you have a company that takes over the watching of your home and calls the police for you.
It really boggled my mind given that we lived in a small coastal community of less than 1400 people where our well known police would be there within minutes.
I never bought one of those systems, but had a friend in the security business who gave me one of his security signs. I proudly put my Covenant Security Alarm sign out in keeping with norms of the neighborhood. At that point, I fit in with my neighbors, and no burglar was any wiser.
Although your wedding ring should function like one of those security signs, with the changes in attitude about marriage, they don’t work like they used to. Either that or potential lovers don’t care about who they begin hitting on.
When someone makes a pass for your spouse, no one calls the relationship police. There is no early warning sign or monitoring to protect you. There is no silent alarm alerting the main office that someone is breaking into your spouse’s heart or pants.
Relationship burglars don’t give any warning before they strike. The only warning signs are when your spouse starts emotionally wandering, yet by then, things have gotten bad.
They look for any opening, be it at work, church or chance meetings in the neighborhood. All they need is a weak moment and the damage is done.
This is the stuff that Kenny Rogers sang about with “Ruby, Don’t take Your Love to Town”, Gary Puckett with “Woman, Woman” and Johnny Cash in “Jackson”.
The angst of such songs, with the pain of a spouse seeing their partner reject them and go seeking someone else is heartbreaking. That kind of heartbreak has a way of shattering your soul.
You can try monitoring who your spouse works with or where they hang out with friends, yet doing so runs the risk of accusations of you ‘spying’ or ‘overcontrolling’ them. Those kind of accusations only end up pushing the two of you further apart rather than giving either one of you any more security.
In such cases, I’ve seen prayer used effectively, yet these days, few people know how to do that kind of prayin’. Another way of dealing with that kind of situation is by strengthening your marriage. One proven way of doing that is with the ‘30 Days to a Better Marriage’ program.
The program guides you and your spouse through assignments that strengthen the bond the two of you share. If you wait until someone hits on your spouse, it’s too late. Take action now and order the program.
You can never go wrong strengthening your marriage.
In such desperate times, you need something that works without doing the trial and error experimentation on your own.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
