One of my favorite movies is ‘Casablanca’. The acting and storyline intrigues me. It conveys how easy it can be to fall into an affair. There is also the sense of things spinning out of control in ways never imagined along with some fascinating characters.
The main characters are caught up in an affair without intending to. A big part of the struggle in the film concerns realigning lives after the affair is discovered.
Some of the questions considered are whether or not it’s an affair if you are under the impression your spouse is dead and whether or not having an affair is okay in dire circumstances like leaving an area due to threat of war.
There aren’t any easy answers to tough affair questions like these.
Another part of the film is the song, “As Time Goes By“. It contains a real nugget of wisdom with the line reminding listeners that ‘the fundamental things apply as time goes by’. Anytime I hear the song, it reminds me that when things spin out of control, it’s important remembering the ‘basics’ or fundamentals.
In my own life, I find the basic things like taking a walk and remembering to breathe are critical when things are spinning out of control. They become more important when things get increasingly crazy.
Remembering the fundamentals gives your mind a chance to reboot. I know when walking the dogs, there is a sense of grounding that comes with taking them out for some fresh air. Taking a few breaths and forcing myself to slow down the pace, helps my mind re-orient.
When your life gets crazy, remember the importance of the ‘fundamentals’. The advice of ‘As Time Goes By’ remains a timeless nugget of wisdom. There are reasons for the film ‘Casablanca’ being considered a ‘classic’. When a film resonates on basic truths, it adds to being considered a classic.
You need some of those fundamentals when dealing face to face with an affair situation. In the video on dealing with the Affair Crisis, I share the importance of telling yourself the truth.
In Casablanca, the couples faced some ugly truths. Truths about themselves, their loyalties and how far they are willing to go.
When you are ready to deal with the Affair Crisis, you’ll find direction and answers that get you through the unsteady days soon after discovering it.
You need the fundamentals rather than getting caught up in the latest wildfires triggers by emails and tweets. Social media will eat up your time and get you distracted from what you need to focus on.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
