Yesterday I mentioned straycations and their connection with cruises. Although the term straycation is new, the idea isn’t. It’s a catchy description for the hiding on annual long term affairs.
In previous decades, these clandestine meetings were all lumped together under the term ‘affairs’. The cheaters just made it a point of sneaking off together.
My wife recalls episodes when her mother insisted on having yearly vacations away from her father. The ironic twist is that the vacation was always taken in a small town where she met with her lover.
It wasn’t about vacation. It was about a rendezvous.
While the kids were busy swimming and doing summer activities, her mother would sneak off with her ‘friend’ as she referred to him. It had the external appearances of old friends catching up on things, yet there was a darker side to the ‘yearly vacations’ to this small town.
Her mother eagerly looked forward to these yearly escapes. She planned and prepared for them months ahead of time.
It was her version of “Bridges of Madison County” although without the glamor of the hollywood version.
On the surface, her preparation was filled with motherly concern, although the intensity of the planning showed other priorities. That kind of planning goes way beyond leaving town just to watch her daughter swim at the home of one of her ‘old friends’.
If things aren’t adding up when your spouse goes out of town, or they continue insisting on having time away from you to the same location year after year, you may be dealing with a straycation rather than a vacation.
Things that look out of place and don’t fit are signals that something more is going on that you assumed. When you finally figure it out, it’s likely too late to stop it.
Straycations are always surrounded by innocent appearances. At first glance, they look innocent.
Once you figure it out, you’ll need some help. In the video, “Getting Past the Affair Crisis”, I share with you ways of dealing with the discovery and immediate aftermath of uncovering an affair.
Instead of feeling lost and bewildered, find out what you can do starting with downloading the video. Just click the link, download it and start making changes.
Straycations don’t have to destroy your marriage.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
