After addressing the topic of “When is a husband being a bastard to his wife?” yesterday, I felt that I also needed addressing “When is a wife being a bitch to her husband?” as well.
Each gender has names they use when caught up in intense fighting. These names are expressions of intense anger and frustration. When they’re used, someone is being blocked, hurt or is intensely angry.
The point at which you use the terms varies with personal application. The tone of voice used when saying them is also an important part of the message.
So today, I’m sharing the Six Signs She’s a Bitch List. They overlap some with the bastard list, but this will give you some general items to look for.
- She’s sleeping with someone else. The more people or frequency this happens, the more animal-like her behavior, the bigger the bitch she is.
- She does something sneaky or underhanded that hurts her husband in a major way.
- She betrays the trust you placed in her with a disregard of your feelings or wishes. It’s as if she wants to hurt you with her disregard.
- She intentionally damages something important to you or keeps you from it.
- She reveals secrets that you trusted her to keep.
- She exploits your vulnerabilities for selfish reasons.
Although you may not want to admit it, when one or more of these things happen, it leaves you hurting. It’s a major blow to you.
That major hurt impacts you whether you admit to it or not. Not admitting that you’re hurting won’t lessen the pain or make it go away.
One of the hard truths is that when they hurt you using the methods above, they’re likely hurting as well. These behaviors are alerting you to their pain.
I encourage you to consider downloading my video on “Overcoming Affair Trauma.” It gives you what you need to know about trauma along with instruction in ways of dealing with it.
Trauma is a very real concern that wounds you and your marriage. Rather than allowing the hurt associated with those wounds to damage your marriage, you can instead do something that improves things.
This video guides you in making it through those wounds and scars.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
