One of the surprises happening during the Coronavirus Shelter-in-place episode is that cheating is rising during this time. On seeing reports of that rise, I considered what would account for that happening.
When you’re socially restrained or stressed by sudden changes you reach out for comfort. If you haven’t developed healthy coping skills, you return to the skills you know.
When you’ve entertained the thought of cheating, the stress makes it appealing. The added stress adds intensity to the experience. You could even call it a ‘danger effect‘.
The fact that it’s even more dangerous than usual makes it more appealing to some cheaters. The added adrenaline rush of being doubly-dangerous is what lures them.
In fact, one French columnist, Maïa Mazaurette, has earned herself the title of the ‘Quarantine Queen’ for her advice on helping cheater cheat during this time. With relationship experts like her encouraging cheaters and telling them ways of doing it, the rise in infidelity is no surprise.
Although you may have never considered cheaters as adrenaline junkies, when danger adds to the thrill, it’s more about the danger than about the sex. In the brains of such cheaters, they’re seeking maximum stimulation.
Not every cheater is an adrenaline junkie. Those that are consider limits as something to test.
The more of their brain they excite, the more alive they feel. For them, it’s about the high and whatever it takes in getting them there. The virus shutdown and the virus itself adds more danger to the whole situation.
Adrenaline junkie cheaters are also high risk for affair relapse. Dealing with them is exasperating when you don’t realize what you’re dealing with.
In my video on “Overcoming Affair Relapse” I address issues like high risk situations, high risk emotions and coming up with affair relapse prevention plans. Just click and download the program.
When you understand what you’re dealing with, you’ll have tools for dealing with the situation. You’ll also know what the flashing warning signs are that an affair danger is on the horizon.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
