While researching some material on affairs, I discovered that one of my old university professors died this year. On hearing of his death, I reflected on my time in his class and some of the take aways I left with.
It’s one thing when it’s a professor I endured, it’s quite another matter when it’s someone who influenced my thinking. In this case, the professor, Jib Fowles opened my mind to new insights and understandings.
Those insights applied to understanding television and all forms of media. He opened my mind to how television manipulates and passively programs your thinking.
I also saw their application in human relationships and with affairs.
One of his quotes was “It is important not to ignore forecasts that are uncongenial.” Although his quote is wordy, I find it useful.
You come across forecasts and predictions you don’t like every day. Some concern the weather, while others concern something as personal as your marriage.
I took his quote as meaning that just because I don’t like the ways things are going doesn’t give me reason to ignore it. You may not like the way things are going in your marriage.
Just because you don’t like where things are going, it doesn’t give you reason to ignore it or to have an affair. You can’t just create a whole new reality to escape when the one your in is unpleasant.
If anything, you need to listen to forecasts about what lies ahead, especially if the forecast contains a warning. When you see warning signs, it’s time to prepare yourself.
It’s also important that you take notice of warning signals in your marriage. If you see a danger sign, it’s alerting you to the need for action, especially if it concerns intimacy and the connection between the two of you.
This brings me to the question of whether or not you’re ignoring warning signs in your marriage.
Are you seeing signs like a new interest in getting physically fit, more physical distancing, changes in how they talk to you, spending more time at work, increased mileage on their car, missing money or other warning signs that danger lies ahead?
If so, the time for action is now. Click and download the “Affair Recovery Workshop” and start taking steps at improving your marriage relationship before the unpleasant forecast becomes a reality.
Hiding or ignoring won’t lessen the impact of relationship alienation.
Taking action now is better than having regrets later.
Click and download the workshop today.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
