There are some questions about affairs that come around like clockwork. One of those concerns whether or not you can be brainwashed into having an affair.
For some reason, readers have an easier time accepting how gaslighting changes people and leaves them believing things about themselves or their marriage that aren’t true than they have accepting brainwashing others into an affair. Gaslighting is form of brainwashing.
Although brainwashing comes in many forms and uses a variety of techniques, choices are still made. With brainwashing, you feel helpless and are unaware of your options.You’re made to believe something that isn’t so.
Being unaware of your options doesn’t mean you didn’t make choices. It means that you were blind to some of your choices.
It may be simple choices like believing what the brain washer is telling you. Those messages are used to either build you up or tear you down. The important part is that the seducer is in control at that moment.
With affairs involving brainwashing, the dynamic is more akin to that of a dominant and a submissive, rather than an affair between two lovers. An affair with brainwashing is filled with control issues embedded within it.
Brainwashers enjoy mind games and the control they exercise through them. Those games continue being used based on them being effective. The brainwasher programs their victim. The mind control gives them a rush. It takes the thrill of seduction to a new level.
Although I wish ‘brainwashing affairs’ were only theoretical. I’ve encountered couples wrestling with them and their effects.
The power of the brainwashing is real. Each time the victim gives in, they give up more and more of their will power and control.
Over time, the victim finds themselves doing things they would never consciously do with their spouse. Control becomes an important part of their affair.
Moving past these kinds of relationships has its own challenges. In such cases, it requires not only ending the affair, but a rebuilding of your marriage and your spouse.
In the Affair Recovery Workshop, you can learn ways of changing what’s been going on in your marriage. Anytime you recover from an affair some rebuilding is required and intimacy renewed.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
