My sons make it a point of knowing the various hunting seasons here. They not only know when deer season begins, but they also keep track of turkey season, dove season, and just about any other game critter that roams the State. Knowing which critter is in season allows them to prepare for what they intend to hunt.
When it comes to affairs, you probably don’t know when the spouse hunting season opens. There is no online site or posted announcements of when the season opens. Although there typically are warning signs that can alert you to the danger ahead, most of you have blinders on, keeping you from seeing the danger.
Whoever said ‘ignorance is bliss’ never had an affair damage their marriage.
There are poachers out there looking for spouses. Some look for lonely wives, others look for husbands with bank accounts or fatherly instincts. The threat is real. There are some poachers who live restlessly until they find new prey.
The best defense against spouse poachers is to be alert and aware. Don’t ignore the signs of your partner’s behavior and take steps to strengthen your marriage so it isn’t a target for poachers.
When a poacher is hunting, they don’t follow any rules of engagement. They don’t play nice. If anything, they look for when your marriage is most vulnerable to make their move. Some strike with little notice, taking advantage of opportunities, while others stalk their target.
You may consider your spouse too nice or having too low level of passion for poachers to be a threat. You would be wrong.
Poachers are experienced at exploiting nice, naive and neglected spouses. They have more experience at seduction and grooming with no hesitancy in using that to their advantage. For them, it’s a game, while for you, its’ a desperate effort at saving your marriage.
Keep in mind, that like game hunters, they camouflage themselves. They appear as nice or non-threatening. They use words, status, photos, or religion to their advantage.
If your spouse saw the danger of the poacher, they may not have fallen prey to them. Once they have slept with your spouse, poachers know ways of using emotions, passions and bonding to their advantage.
This is nothing new. In Ancient Rome and Greece, temple prostitutes used bonding achieved in their relationship to their advantage as well. They knew that such relationships get more donations and play on emotions more than passing the offering plate while playing “Just As I Am”. They knew how to get their hooks in to their marks and make it profitable for them and the temple.
They put others under their influence and kept them there.
Rather than having your spouse poached out from under you, watch the Affair Relapse video which alerts you to warning signs of being seduced or heading for a relapse.
Seduction is more advanced and sophisticated than flirting these days.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
