Anytime I hear someone say, “I’m an emotional wreck”, it tells me that the news of the affair is still pretty fresh. At this point, they know that something just happened, but are unsure about the extent of the damage or what to do.
Much like an automobile wreck victim initially goes through a time of shock, the victim of an affair goes through a time of emotional shock. At that moment, they know something happened but are still trying to sort things out.
The best thing to do during this time is to take a step back and try to gain some perspective on the situation.
At that point, taking care of the basics like providing comfortable surroundings and making sure you can breathe is important. Likewise, victims of an emotional wreck need comfort and basic needs met.
Your mind and emotions are still coming to grips with what happened. You aren’t ready to hear all about what caused it. Instead, they need someone to hear them out and be with them.
You aren’t ready for the lectures and sermons associated with how adultery is a sin either. You are doing good to make it one day at a time. Just getting out of bed and eating are accomplishments. The time for those things will come, but it’s not at this moment.
Your world’s been shattered. You need to pull together what parts of their heart and soul remain.
This is also a time when you’re vulnerable. Your guard is down and now isn’t the time for playing head games or relationship roulette.
As time goes on, you’ll gain clarity. For the moment, take a breath and clear your head. This is a time for getting back to the basics.
If this sounds like you, then consider downloading the video, “Handling the Affair Crisis”. It focuses on getting back to those basics and what you need during the initial days of being an emotional wreck.
At this time you need things that help you get through the day rather than focusing on all the why and causes behind the affair. If you jump into blaming and analyzing before you are making it through the day, you end up making recovery tougher than it needs to be.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
